Book Review (and a Giveaway!): Don’t Go To Bed Angry by Deb & Ron DeArmond

Posted July 5, 2016 by meezcarrie in Christian, Deb DeArmond, giveaway, nonfiction, Ron DeArmond / 0 Comments

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A practical handbook on how to fight better—together—for your marriage.

In every marriage, there is conflict. And with every conflict, there is a choice for resolution. Will you ignore the issue until it seemingly goes away? Or will you work together to find peace?

In Don’t Go to Bed Angry, Deb and Ron DeArmond give you permission to fight. Conflict isn’t the problem, after all; the real issue is how we deal with the conflict. Deb and Ron demonstrate how communication through conflict can safeguard—and even strengthen—your relationship. Immensely practical features including worksheets and discussion questions make this a definitive go-to resource to help you start fighting—together—for your marriage.

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GENRE: Nonfiction, Christian, Marriage Help
PUBLISHER: Abingdon Press
RELEASE DATE: June 21, 2016
PAGES: 208

“Be clear about who the enemy is – and isn’t.”

don't go to bed angry book review

Deb and Ron DeArmond bring over 40 years of marriage as well as nearly as many years in relationship coaching/men’s ministry to their co-authored book Don’t Go to Bed Angry (Stay up and Fight).  Anyone who has been married for half an hour knows that conflict is par for the course in marriage. Unfortunately, amid all the gifts and cards and pieces of advice you’re given on and leading up to your wedding day, no one hands you a list of rules for how to “fight fair”.

At least, my husband and I didn’t get one. In fact, I’ve frequently said that while I’m sure premarital counseling has its place we would have benefited more from newlywed marital counseling.  You see, we never really fought before we were married.  After marriage?  Well, our “no fight” record didn’t last too long in close quarters lol.  I think if we’d had these tools in hand sixteen years ago (how has it been that long already?!?), we would have saved ourselves some “ugly, angry, painful moments” that – if I may be honest – have left some heart-scars on both of us.

The nine chapters are broken down into six categories: Burdens, Baggage, Bridges, Barriers, Boundaries, and Blessings. Each chapter includes helpful, easy to absorb information and practical guidance as well as insight from surveys the authors conducted and conversations they had with couples who graciously shared their experiences with Deb & Ron. The chapters each end with a section called “Put on the Gloves” which provides questions to complete individually and then discuss together as a couple, as well as a then and nowprayer to pray together.  I found the section on the Four Conflict Styles (in chapter 5) and the chapter on Communication Traps (chapter 6) to be the most interesting/helpful for me, but this is a book that I want to go back and read with my husband too.

Bottom Line: Don’t Go to Bed Angry (Stay up and Fight) is full of practical insight and solid truth to help you a) learn how to fight fair and b) recognize who the enemy is – and isn’t – in your relationship. And ultimately, the most important aspect of this book is how it points you individually and as a couple to Jesus and teaches you how to make a plan for your marriage with Him at the wheel. A must-have for any newly-marrieds, old-marrieds (like us), or barely-still-marrieds. There is hope, and Deb & Ron DeArmond help you fight for it.

(I received a copy of this book in exchange for only my honest review.)

My Rating: 4 stars / Great book!

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about the author

deb and ron dearmond

Deb DeArmond is an author, speaker, and coach with a focus on communication, relationships, and conflict resolution. Her writing explores marriage, parenting, in-law and extended family relationships. She is the author of Related By Chance, Family By Choice and I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last. Deb is the founder of Living-Write, where she coaches aspiring authors. She’s monthly columnist and feature writer for Lifeway’s Mature Living Magazine, and has published more than 120 articles online and in print publications.

Ron DeArmond has a hungry heart for the Word, and has studied the Bible for 45+ years. Ron’s call to serve men is evident in his previous ministry positions with Christian Men’s Network under Dr. Edwin Lewis Cole and Faithful Men Ministry. Ron is currently the Associate Pastor of men’s ministry at Catch the Fire/ DFW and has ministered around the world. The DeArmonds live in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

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