Today we’ve got two authors for the price of one! As part of the Celebrate Lit tour for It’s Momplicated, I’m pleased to welcome Debbie Alsdorf and Joan Edwards Kay to the blog.
For the past twenty-five years, through her speaking and writing, Debbie Alsdorf’s mission has been to help women live a better story by leading them to the heart of God’s love and the truth of his Word. Debbie is a biblical lay counselor, a Christian life coach, and the founder of Design4Living Ministries. She and her husband, Ray, have raised a blended family of four adult children. Today Debbie’s favorite role is being a grandma to ten little ones.
Joan Edwards Kay is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the East Bay of San Francisco and has been an adjunct professor at Western Seminary. She received her bachelor’s degree from Vassar College and her master’s degree from Western Seminary. She is happily married with two adult daughters, four stepdaughters, and five grandchildren.
Let’s face it: when it comes to mothers and their daughters, things can get a little . . . complicated. Momplicated, you might say.
Whether your relationship with your mom has been wonderful or stressful, redeemed or broken, close or nonexistent, it’s one of your life’s most important and defining connections. Its effects have probably followed you into adulthood.
If you have conflicting feelings toward mom—or if you wish you could get past some of the baggage that holds you back—this is your book. Combining spiritual disciplines and the best of current therapeutic practice, It’s Momplicated will help you discover
- How your early connection with your mother may have impacted your sense of self and your other important relationships—and what you can do to break the cycle
- Why you and your mother have the relationship you have—the underlying reasons that may be contributing to strain and unease
- Tools and exercises to help you cope with some of the most common effects of a broken relationship, including anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, and trust issues
- How to be the daughter and mother God wants you to be even if your mom wasn’t who you needed her to be.
It’s never too late to love, never too late to heal, and never too late to trust God to turn the pain in your story into a redemption song. As you read It’s Momplicated, you’ll realize that while God doesn’t promise to fix all your circumstances, He does promise to uphold you and lead you to a healing place of knowing you are truly precious and loved, no matter how your past has affected you
Hi Debbie & Joan! Welcome to the blog!
Debbie: Oranges, sweeter than apples.
Carrie: Unless you’re talking honeycrisp apples – yum!
Joan: Audiobooks! Much as I love music, I love words, ideas and stories more. When I take a walk with my phone I will listen to a book or a podcast far more often than I will listen to music.
Carrie: I can do podcasts or nonfiction audiobooks but if it’s between fiction audiobooks and music? I’m going with music. I have to read my stories with my eyes, not my ears lol.
Debbie: Summer. Love warmth more than cold, beaches and lakes, picnics and bbq
Joan: Summer! I love the long days, the warmth, and the feeling of being on vacation.
Carrie: I am decidedly outnumbered here LOL #winter
Debbie: Dogs! They are loyal and protective and they help me get my exercise steps!
Joan: Over! I cannot stand it the other way. If a family member puts it on the “wrong” way, I cannot resist fixing it.
Q: Around here I like to say that reading is my superpower. If YOU had a superpower, what would it be?
Debbie: Noticing others and encouraging the good I see in them
Joan: Peacemaking is my superpower. I’m a 9 on the Enneagram—the peacemaker. I can see issues from more than one point of view and guide others to hear and understand each other. It helps a lot in my work as a marriage and family therapist.
Carrie: We need more of both of these superpowers in our world today!
Q: Other than the Bible, what are five of your most cherished books?
- The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom
- Abba’s Child by Brennan Manning
- The whole Wizard of Oz series (I loved those books as a child)
- Life of the Beloved by Brennan Manning
- Listening Prayer by Leanne Payne
Carrie: The Hiding Place is one of my lifelong favorites ♥
Q: Which books are currently ‘on your nightstand’?
Debbie: Letters to the Church, Frances Chan, Draw the Circle, Mark Batterson
Carrie: Awesome choices!
Q: Characters often find themselves in situations they aren’t sure they can get themselves out of. When was the last time you found yourself in a situation that was hard to get out of and what did you do?
Joan: Last week my co-author, Debbie, and were in Hawaii with a hurricane, two fires, a dust storm, all flights cancelled and an invitation to appear on the Today Show in New York that Tuesday. What???? It seemed impossible, but we prayed, persevered and found a way off the island and to New York in time for the taping!
Carrie: oh wow!! That is definitely Divine intervention!
Q: What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever Googled while researching a book?
Debbie: Wild women… for my book A Different Kind of Wild… let’s just say I had to quickly close my computer!
Carrie: hahaha oh no!
Q: What do you most want readers to take away from It’s Momplicated?
Debbie: It’s never too late to heal. What triggers our emotions of shame or insecurity has roots. Jesus desires us to go to the root rather than just cutting symptoms off the top. This brings lasting change. Addressing triggering pain or emotion brings healing when brought to God and viewed in the light of His word.
Joan: I want readers to develop compassion for themselves and for their mothers. I also want them to embrace the idea that God is the perfect parent and can fill every unmet need.
Carrie: Amen ♥
Thank you so much for taking time to talk with me! 🙂 Before we say goodbye for today, tell us what‘s coming up next for you.
Joan: I will continue to practice therapy, speak, teach and pray about the possibility of another book!
Debbie: Speaking season is here, meeting new women and hearing their stories helps shape what I write about. So stay tuned for tings I would tell my younger self, ways I would choose differently when faced with real life.
To celebrate their tour, Debbie and Joan are giving away a grand prize of a “I’m Not Like a Regular Mom” T-Shirt!!
Be sure to comment on the blog stops for nine extra entries into the giveaway! Click the link below to enter.
This giveaway is hosted by Celebrate Lit, not RimSP
Follow along with the tour for more chances to win!