Welcome to the Blog Tour & Giveaway for Love Her Well by Kari Kampakis, hosted by JustRead Publicity Tours! I’m honored to have Kari on the blog today for a chat about her new book!
Title: Love Her Well
Author: Kari Kampakis
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
Release Date: August 18, 2020
Genre: Christian Living/Parenting
Moms are eager for tips and wisdom to help them build strong relationships with their daughters, and Kari Kampakis’s Love Her Well gives them ten practical ways to do so, not by changing their daughters but by changing their own thoughts, actions, and mind-set.
For many women, having a baby girl is a dream come true. Yet as girls grow up, the narrative of innocence and joy changes to gloom and doom as moms are told, “Just wait until she’s a teenager!” and handed a disheartening script that treats a teenage girl’s final years at home as solely a season to survive.
Author and blogger Kari Kampakis suggests it’s time to change the narrative and mind-set that lead moms to parent teen girls with a spirit of defeat, not strength. By improving the foundation, habits, and dynamics of the relationship, mothers can connect with their teen daughters and earn a voice in their lives that allows moms to offer guidance, love, wisdom, and emotional support.
As a mom of four daughters (three of whom are teenagers), Kari has learned the hard way that as girls grow up, mothers must grow up too. In Love Her Well, Kari shares ten ways that moms can better connect with their daughters in a challenging season, including:
- choosing their words and timing carefully,
- listening and empathizing with her teen’s world,
- seeing the good and loving her for who she is,
- taking care of themselves and having a support system, and more.
This book isn’t a guide to help mothers “fix” their daughters or make them behave. Rather, it’s about a mom’s journey, doing the heart work and legwork necessary to love a teenager while still being a strong, steady parent. Kari explores how every relationship consists of two imperfect sinners, and teenagers gain more respect for their parents when they admit (and learn from) their mistakes, apologize, listen, give grace, and try to understand their teens’ point of view. Yes, teenagers need rules and consequences, but without a connected relationship, parents may never gain a significant voice in their lives or be a safe place they long to return to.
By admitting her personal failures and prideful mistakes that have hurt her relationships with her teenage daughters, Kari gives mothers hope and reminds them all things are possible through God. By leaning on him, mothers gain the wisdom, guidance, protection, and clarity they need to grow strong relationships with their daughters at every age, especially during the critical teen years.
Hi Kari! Welcome to the blog!
Q: Around here I like to say that reading is my superpower. If YOU had a superpower, what would it be?
Carrie: that would be a great superpower to have, especially now!
Q: If you knew you were only going to be allowed FIVE books for the rest of your life, besides the Bible, which five would make the cut?
Kari: The Meaning of Marriage by Tim Keller, Mere Christianity by CS Lewis, The Screwtape Letters by CS Lewis, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren, and The Return of the Prodigal Son by Henri Nouwen
Carrie: excellent choices 🙂
Q: What do you enjoy most about writing?
Kari: Some days I beat my head against the wall and think I should quit because writing does not come easily to me, but what I enjoy most is the closeness I feel with God when it’s just me and Him at the computer, and then the relationships I build and the people I meet through my work. Writing has brought the best people into my life, and I am thankful!
Carrie: Blogging has done the same for me – God is so sweet to do that for us, isn’t He?
Q: Why is the theme of Love Her Well important to you?
Kari: My book is designed to help mothers parent with a spirit of strength, not defeat. God wants to empower us through the Holy Spirit and help us become the moms we’re meant to be, yet the enemy wants us to feel stuck and defeated. Being aware of these opposing forces makes all the difference in whether we stay in that place of feeling stuck – or humbly go to God and ask for His help to fill our hearts and homes with Christlike love. Through God’s power and mercy, we can choose the path of light.
Carrie: Amen ♥
Q: What is something that surprised you the most while researching Love Her Well?
Kari: Even though I was aware of the negative stereotype associated with raising teenage girls, I was disheartened by the lack of positive resources. I believe in being realistic yet optimistic, and I was surprised to not find more in the market that can meet mothers in the challenges they face while also giving them hope for what can be.
Carrie: thank you for bridging that gap & writing one!
Q: What is something God taught you while you wrote Love Her Well?
Kari: That relationships are fluid and always changing, and we are all a work-in-progress. As I started to write this manuscript, one of my daughters and I entered a season of locking horns. As my inner critic screamed, “Who do you think you are to write this? You’re totally [un]qualified!” I realized I had a choice. I could either give up and accept defeat – or write from a place of vulnerability and deep trust in God. I chose the latter because I know that is the exact place many of us find ourselves on our worst days of parenting, and I wanted this book to meet moms where they are – but not leave them there.
Carrie: i love that perspective – yes.
Thank you so much for taking time to talk with me! 🙂 Before we say goodbye for today, tell us what‘s coming up next for you.
Kari:Thanks for having me! My book launched August 18, so I’ll spend the next few months sharing that message and having conversations with readers. As we see what topics or chapters strike a chord, we will begin discussing the next book, which will hopefully continue the conversation from this one.
Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis is an author, blogger, and national speaker from Birmingham, Alabama. Her books for teen girls, 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know and Liked: Whose Approval Are You Living For?, have been used widely across the country by teen youth groups and church groups to empower girls through faith.
Kari’s work has been featured on the TODAY Show, TODAY Parents,Yahoo! News, EWTN, Proverbs 31, Ann Voskamp’s blog, The Huffington Post, and other national outlets. She and her husband, Harry, have four daughters and a dog named Lola. Learn more by visiting www.karikampakis.com or finding Kari on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter.
(2) winners will receive a print copy of Love Her Well by Kari Kampakis!
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